Send. No, don’t send! That middle sentence sounds too harsh. Okay, send. Wait! It sounds too goofy… I want to be taken seriously. Should I even send this at all? *sigh* Well, I have to send something, so this is going to have to do.
Whatever happens, happens. They probably aren’t my friend anymore. Why can’t I ever keep friends? What is wrong with me?
Sounds a little dramatic, right? This is a frequent scenario for me. And when I start feeling panicky and sick I do the following to help myself calm down.
Remove yourself from the situation
Turn off the phone. Step away from the computer. Whatever it may be. Just take yourself away from being able to check for messages or re-read what you sent (If that’s what you’re dealing with)
It’s best to find something that requires you to be active. Anything that can keep your mind from wandering back to your anxious thoughts.
Talk to someone.
Confide in your spouse or a close friend. Having someone on the outside of the situation can reassure you that you are just over thinking. Also, giving someone else some of your burden will help bring your own stress down.
Talk to your pet.
Sometimes we need to talk to someone who won’t talk back. When I had horses, I would talk to them about my problems. They would just stand there patiently listening. And I could bury my head in their neck for a good cry.
This doesn’t have to be vigorous. Just going on a walk will be enough exertion to boost your mood.
Ignore the thoughts
I have found this one to be the most helpful. It’s difficult at first, but with practice you can dismiss persistent unwanted thoughts. As soon as a thought starts to enter your mind, make a conscious effort to shut it down. You do this by changing the subject. Immediately start to think about something else.